1. True friends care about you. They don’t offer or give help because they will receive something from you. True friendship is not an exchange. They help you get out of sticky problems because they don’t want you to be locked in a small room by yourself. The inner beauty of a person is the most important—make sure you have seen, felt, and heard their deep heart.
2. True friends are like books that keep their locks closed forever. You can share personal or private information, but it will never leave between the two of you. Try telling your friends a little secret and watch to see if they open their mouth. If they do, don’t say anything, but keep in mind to prevent disagreements or fights. Rumors are spread by people that are not your true friends.
3. True friends spend time with you. They may have a busy schedule, but they will always try to put you at the top of their list. Although you might not have planned an agenda to be with them, you are stuck together like glue, often without even realizing it.
4. Loyalty is the most important value in a true friendship. It determines everyone’s inner heart. Friends may be loyal to you, but may not be when a situation arrives or changes. For example, a twelve grader insulted and pushed you. If your friend stands up and stops the big twelve grader, you would consider him/her a true friend. If she backs up and stays there as a scared, little lady bug, then she is just an acquaintance.
Don’t panic about not having friends that best suit these characteristics. It takes time and effort to build meaningful relationships that will withstand issues that arise.