Many say that a boy and a girl can’t simply be “just friends.” They firmly believe that at some point love will interfere; either because the male feels an attraction towards the female, which they say is the case most of the time, or vice versa. There is also the situation when both the male and female want to move to the next step of their friendship. What many people tend to forget, however, is that there is also a possibility of neither of them feeling attracted towards their best friend.
I (and the several people I asked) believe that maintaining a platonic friendship is possible. Personally, I think that forming a friendship with the opposite gender is crucial. Men and women have different thoughts, point of views, and reactions to the world. Having someone that can openly share those thoughts with you will help you interact better with the rest of the world. Also, the drama is drastically decreased–for the girls, at least. Boys don’t get jealous of you and they definitely will not criticize and judge your every waking movement. Boys also like to have a girl’s perspective sometimes, I know my guy friends do. They’re always asking questions like what they should wear to this event, what they should do in a certain situation, what girls like and dislike, and so forth.
Now, let’s get a little more personal. Remember the four scenarios I mentioned previously? While writing this article I realized that I had experienced every single one of them, I bet you have as well. The first situation I experienced was the friendship turning into a relationship. I know, this is not good to mention first since my article is about boys and girls being able to maintain a friendship, but it is totally acceptable to move on to the next step if both parties are willing to. We were really close friends; we could talk about anything and everything. I felt so comfortable with him that I was the first one to make the move, and soon he expressed his feelings as well. That’s how our relationship emerged—young, innocent first love. The relationship, of course, came to an end and with it followed the strong bond we had formed before and during our relationship. That probably is one of the biggest drawbacks of dating your best friend—the friendship ends as well.
Aside from this failed relationship, I’ve had a handful of guy friends who I’ve been able to maintain as just friends. Yes, there have been times when I was secretly crushing on my best buddy and, though as not so often, I’ve had instances when I was the one being crushed on. I’m proud to say that I overcame these two scenarios and continued building a stronger friendship. I’ve also had friendships were even the thought of having an intimate relationship didn’t cross neither of our minds, not even once.
I hope that by now you guys will have realized that boys and girls can be best friends with no love intervening. So, if you are one of the people who strongly believe that there is no such thing as “just friends” between a boy and a girl, think again.
I (and the several people I asked) believe that maintaining a platonic friendship is possible. Personally, I think that forming a friendship with the opposite gender is crucial. Men and women have different thoughts, point of views, and reactions to the world. Having someone that can openly share those thoughts with you will help you interact better with the rest of the world. Also, the drama is drastically decreased–for the girls, at least. Boys don’t get jealous of you and they definitely will not criticize and judge your every waking movement. Boys also like to have a girl’s perspective sometimes, I know my guy friends do. They’re always asking questions like what they should wear to this event, what they should do in a certain situation, what girls like and dislike, and so forth.
Now, let’s get a little more personal. Remember the four scenarios I mentioned previously? While writing this article I realized that I had experienced every single one of them, I bet you have as well. The first situation I experienced was the friendship turning into a relationship. I know, this is not good to mention first since my article is about boys and girls being able to maintain a friendship, but it is totally acceptable to move on to the next step if both parties are willing to. We were really close friends; we could talk about anything and everything. I felt so comfortable with him that I was the first one to make the move, and soon he expressed his feelings as well. That’s how our relationship emerged—young, innocent first love. The relationship, of course, came to an end and with it followed the strong bond we had formed before and during our relationship. That probably is one of the biggest drawbacks of dating your best friend—the friendship ends as well.
Aside from this failed relationship, I’ve had a handful of guy friends who I’ve been able to maintain as just friends. Yes, there have been times when I was secretly crushing on my best buddy and, though as not so often, I’ve had instances when I was the one being crushed on. I’m proud to say that I overcame these two scenarios and continued building a stronger friendship. I’ve also had friendships were even the thought of having an intimate relationship didn’t cross neither of our minds, not even once.
I hope that by now you guys will have realized that boys and girls can be best friends with no love intervening. So, if you are one of the people who strongly believe that there is no such thing as “just friends” between a boy and a girl, think again.